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Top 10 Myths about Blogging

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10 common blogging mythsBlogging for more than three years now gave me a quite experience and confidence on how should blogging be treated. More or less, the top myths that needs to be cleared out is the same myths listed in Onibalusi Bamidele‘s .

Bamidele observes:

There are many blogging myths that, if followed, will lead to the death of a new blog. Many new bloggers read and follow these rules religiously because they heard it from someone they respected, but the end result is that they quit out of frustration—the frustration of not getting results from their efforts.

From building a successful blog and observing other successful bloggers, I have realized how dangerous and deceitful these myths can be, so I’ve decided to bust them in this article. Some of these myths will be shocking, and some will spark debate, but they represent what I’ve learned from experience.

The top 10 blogging myth he mentioned are:

Myth #1: Content is king

Myth #2: Marketing is king

Myth #3: SEO is bowing to social media, so neglect SEO and focus on social media

Myth #4: Social media is useless

Myth #5: More traffic = more money

Myth #6: Not responding to comments means you don’t respect your readers

Myth #7: Longer posts bring more traffic

Myth #8: Selling ad space is the best way to monetize a blog

Myth #9: The best way to get traffic is by implementing as many tactics as you can

Myth #10: The key to blogging success is getting backlinks from an A-list blogger.

Personal Life Coaching: Socrates' The Triple-Filter Test

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After being influenced by a friend reading “Sophies World”, I came to know Socrates and his persona by reading tons of pages about him. This time, I opt to share this content emailed by a friend on the possible ways of handling reports/news we receive about others. Take time to digest the wisdom of this short post:

SocratesIn ancient Greece, Socrates was reputed to hold knowledge in high esteem. One day an acquaintance met the great philosopher and said, “Do you know what I just heard about your friend?”

“Hold on a minute,” Socrates replied. “Before you talk to me about my friend, it might be good idea to take a moment and filter what you’re going to say. That’s why I call it the triple filter test. The first filter is Truth. Have you made absolutely sure that what you are about to tell me is true?”

“Well, no,” the man said, “actually I just heard about it and…”

“All right,” said Socrates. “So you don’t really know if it’s true or not. Now, let’s try the second filter, the filter of Goodness. Is what you are about to tell me about my friend something good?”

“Umm, no, on the contrary…”

“So,” Socrates continued, “you want to tell me something bad about my friend, but you’re not certain it’s true. You may still pass the test though, because there’s one filter left—the filter of Usefulness. Is what you want to tell me about my friend going to be useful to me?”

“No, not really.”

“Well,” concluded Socrates, “if what you want to tell me is neither true, nor good, nor even useful, why tell it to me at all?”

The author of this post is unknown, but I assume one of his student – Aristotle, may had recorded this as told by the great mentor. Never mind who may have written this. Are we the acquaintance or the logical-Socrates?

Respect begets respect, and if what we are saying is not good, useful or true, why should we take some efforts of spreading it. Stop exploiting others.

Be bearer of good news… ALWAYS!

Personal Life Coaching: Attitude of Gratitude

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“Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful.” ~Albert Schweitzer~

This story is shared online by Davy Jones based on his personal account. How can we best handle things that happens in our lives? Here is Mr. Jones secret:

attitude of gratitudeAround twenty years ago I was living in Seattle and going through hard times. I could not find satisfying work and I found this especially difficult as I had a lot of experience and a Masters degree.

To my shame I was driving a school bus to make ends meet and living with friends. I had lost my apartment. I had been through five interviews with a company and one day between bus runs they called to say I did not get the job. I went to the bus barn like a zombie of disappointment.

Later that afternoon, while doing my rounds through a quiet suburban neighborhood I had an inner wave – like a primal scream – arise from deep inside me and I thought “Why has my life become so hard?” “Give me a sign, I asked… a physical sign – not some inner voice type of thing.”

Immediately after this internal scream I pulled the bus over to drop off a little girl and as she passed she handed me an earing saying I should keep it in case somebody claimed it. The earring was stamped metal, painted black and said ‘BE HAPPY’.

At first I got angry – yeah, yeah, I thought. Then it hit me. I had been putting all of my energies into what was wrong with my life rather than what was right! I decided then and there to make a list of 50 things I was grateful for.

At first it was hard, then it got easier. One day I decided to up it to 75. That night there was a phone call for me at my friend’s house from a lady who was a manager at a large hospital. About a year earlier I had submitted a syllabus to a community college to teach a course on stress management. (Yup, you heard me. ;-) She asked me if I would do a one-day seminar for 200 hospital workers. I said yes and got the job.

My day with the hospital workers went very well. I got a standing ovation and many more days of work. To this day I KNOW that it was because I changed my attitude to gratitude.

Incidentally, the day after I found the earring the girl asked me if anyone had claimed it. I told her no and she said “I guess it was meant for you then.”

I spent the next year conducting training workshops all around the Seattle area and then decided to risk everything and go back to Scotland where I had lived previously. I closed my one man business, bought a plane ticket and got a six month visa from immigration. One month later I met my wonderful English wife and best friend of 15 years now. We live in a small beautiful cottage, two miles from a paved road in the highlands of Scotland.

‘THE ONLY ATTITUDE IS GRATITUDE’ has been my motto for years now and yes, it completely changed my life.

Personal Life Coaching: We Succeed With Others

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unity | success with othersAnother story I came across the world wide web. Unfortunately, this article hasn’t been attributed to someone. Nevertheless the story below tells a golden story to be lived by. May you be inspired by this to action:

Who Packed Your Parachute?

Charles Plumb was a US Navy jet pilot in Vietnam. After 75 combat missions, his plane was destroyed by a surface-to-air missile. Plumb ejected and parachuted into enemy hands. He was captured and spent 6 years in a communist Vietnamese prison. He survived the ordeal and now lectures on lessons learned from that experience!

One day, when Plumb and his wife were sitting in a restaurant, a man at another table came up and said, “You’re Plumb! You flew jet fighters in Vietnam from the aircraft carrier Kitty Hawk. You were shot down!”

“How in the world did you know that?” asked Plumb.

“I packed your parachute,” the man replied. Plumb gasped in surprise and gratitude. The man pumped his hand and said, “I guess it worked!” Plumb assured him, “It sure did. If your chute hadn’t worked, I wouldn’t be here today.”

Plumb couldn’t sleep that night, thinking about that man. Plumb says, “I kept wondering what he had looked like in a Navy uniform: a white hat; a bib in the back; and bell-bottom trousers. I wonder how many times I might have seen him and not even said ‘Good morning, how are you?’ or anything because, you see, I was a fighter pilot and he was just a sailor.” Plumb thought of the many hours the sailor had spent at a long wooden table in the bowels of the ship, carefully weaving the shrouds and folding the silks of each chute, holding in his hands each time the fate of someone he didn’t know.

Now, Plumb asks his audience, “Who’s packing your parachute?” Everyone has someone who provides what they need to make it through the day. He also points out that he needed many kinds of parachutes when his plane was shot down over enemy territory – he needed his physical parachute, his mental parachute, his emotional parachute, and his spiritual parachute. He called on all these supports before reaching safety.

Most often, with all the stresses we have in life, we miss greeting those who are important to us. We forget to say “Hello!”, “Thank You”, “Congratulations” and “Get Well” to people who had helped us succeed. We failed to recognize them.

No man is an island. You are prone to fail alone. Always be in gratitude to everyone who helped you to become what you are right now.

Remember, they “packed your parachute.”

Personal Life Coaching: Choosing the positive words to say

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saying positive wordsThis is another story where we can possibly learn from:

There once was a wise sage who wandered the countryside. One day, as he passed near a village, he was approached by a woman who told him of a sick child nearby. She beseeched him to help this child.

So the sage came to the village, and a crowd gathered around him, for such a man was a rare sight. One woman brought the sick child to him, and he said a prayer over her.

“Do you really think your prayer will help her, when medicine has failed?” yelled a man from the crowd.

“You know nothing of such things! You are a stupid fool!” said the sage to the man.

The man became very angry with these words and his face grew hot and red. He was about to say something, or perhaps strike out, when the sage walked over to him and said: “If one word has such power as to make you so angry and hot, may not another have the power to heal?”

And thus, the sage healed two people that day.

The word you say is powerful. It can create or destroy an individual. It would be nice if we add value to people by using words than making them feel less of what they are.

Language does have the power to change reality. Therefore, treat your words as the mighty instruments  to make, to heal, to nurture, to cherish, to bless, and to forgive.

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